Praise your children often when it's warranted, of course and resist the urge to criticize them. If you consistently tell your kids that they're smart, capable and determined, they'll come to believe it. Try not to point out things, such as 'Tommy is shy' or 'Ava isn't very good at math. But at the same time], we definitely need to be careful not to over-praise our kids and treat them like little kings and queens who deserve anything they want. It all comes down to how you praise them - rather than telling them they're 'the best' and 'Mommy's little champion', tell them you're proud of them because they practiced really hard and kept trying until they succeeded.
Encourage your children to be independent. Teach them how to set the table, tie their laces and prepare their own breakfast. Autonomy is a cornerstone of self-esteem in both children and adults. This also includes encouraging them to take risks and learn from their mistakes. And when they do inevitably fail, gently push them to keep trying to help them build their perseverance and resilience. Look down and spy the tiny ladybird on the leaf or the dewy cobweb in the hedge.
Sit down together over teatime and talk about the day. Ask if anything funny happened or if anyone did anything silly. Or scoop your child up and head out on an impromptu adventure together to eat ice creams on the beach even in winter or go on a torch light walk. More than ever before we live in a society that has everyone believing they need more and need to be more to be loved, valued and accepted.
Talk to them about how the things we see on social media are not a true representation of real life. Help them recognise that they are enough. Nobody is perfect and being enough is actually a pretty good thing. Teaching them this can help them to stay confident throughout their life.
A nice way to do this is to start a family happiness jar. Find and decorate a large jar and fill it with little slips of paper. Each time your child has a proud moment at school or you have a happy moment as a family write it down, date it and pop in in the jar.
Include little things as well as bigger achievements and events. Happiness jars are amazing for your child to sit down and look through every now and then. Reading about all the good moments can help them appreciate the great things around them and what they have achieved. By building in all these little things into your days and weeks, you will improve your kids confidence and make each child feel like a VIP.
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Not registered yet? Download your free gratitude pack here: earlyyearsstorybox. Children will be far happier in life if they realise this and learn to accept and love themselves even with their flaws. Children have their own minds and each one has different skills, abilities and ways of doing things. We need to nurture children to become their authentic self and to know that it is okay to be different.
Nobody likes to be controlled and the same applies to children. We can give children choice and still control the outcome. For example:. Quite often, we tell children to do something without explaining why. It may seem obvious to us, but children are not always developmentally-equipped with the ability to join the dots and by explaining things, it will help them to understand why you are doing what you are doing. Stacey loves her role as a writer, illustrator and public speaker and believes in the power of personal development.
She is also on a mission to empower children to live a life full of happiness and fulfilment, which is why she launched the ThankYouOaky Gratitude Movement. Your email address will not be published. Facebook Twitter.
Be present. For example, when children realize they have done something wrong they feel failure, and to them, it feels permanent. Our job as their parent is to guide them in other ways to handle situations and to give them the tools to handle their emotions as well as empower them to change their behavior. When your child does something you want them to do differently, like grabs a toy from another child,.
Then it is the time to empower them to change and diffuse their negative feelings. It also helps them resolve their current feelings I feel bad now, but next time I can do better and gives them a sense of relief and a desire to try next time. I used my words!
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